性格定命運？ (二)
談到十六型人格(MBTI)學問，有家長問我，內向的孩子是否不適合到歐美國家讀書？他認為外國學生大部份都是性格外向，積極進取，擅長發表意見和廣交朋友，擔心內向型子女學習不夠主動和結交不到朋友。 家長有兩個誤解，首先，根據調查，美國人口中內向型其實比外向型多，中國人以為美國人總是外向是受文化差異影響。第二，內向的人不像外向的人多說話和多朋友，但說話太多和朋友太多也未必是一件好事，經過深思熟慮才說話可以是更有內涵，有選擇地交朋友可以避免誤交損友。內向的人也可以積極進取，關鍵是要懂得與環境打交道，讓別人知道自己的實力。 根據MBTI，性格的第四個功能是關乎個人對外界的能度，以及如何安排自己的生活，可分為判斷或認知傾向。有家長認為判斷型的孩子最令父母放心，因為這類孩子很有紀律和時間觀念，做事有條理。判斷型的家長育有認知型的孩子，或會覺得孩子做事拖拖拉拉，擔心他們欠交功課，不着緊考試，輸在起跑線。其實每種性格都有優點和盲點，認知型孩子做人處事較有彈性，較易接受突發事情，隨機應變，隨遇而安，有助創意和新想法的出現。當然他們也要學習分配時間和訌立目標按部就班地完
性格定命運？(一)
性格定命運？(一) 你是否相信格定命運？某種性格的人，才適合做某種工作？某種性格的人，更適合與某種性格的人結婚？某種性格的的孩子，有更大機會上大學？某種性格的父母，與某種性格的孩子更夾得來？ 根據十六型人格(MBTI)的學問，人類性格有四個功能，每個功能分兩種傾向，而其中第一和第四個功能較影響人際關係和相處模式。第一個功能是指精力或注意力聚焦的方向，可分為外向或內向。怎樣的婚姻才是最匹配？拍拖時，我們或許被性格與自己有別的人吸引。例如一個內向型的女子與一個外向型男子互相吸引，因為男子活發主動，能帶女子接觸外在的世界；文靜愛思考的女子，亦令男子眼前一亮，感覺新鮮。但當結婚後，男女雙方便可能怪責對方不像自己，外向型丈夫或許嫌內向型妻子沒有樂趣，內向型妻子又會怪責外向型丈夫愛蒲愛玩，不顧家庭。 那麼是否相同型格的人走在起就最好呢？試想若夫婦都是外向型，可能會花很多時間交際應酬，而較少留意家事和孩子。若夫婦都是內向型，這個家庭便會非常安靜，卻沒有動力為孩子搞生日會，為長輩安排家庭聚會。 世界上沒有一種完美的性格組合，相近或相異的性格的人，可以彼此欣賞，也
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